The moment a girl crosses the age of 25, the whole world around her tends to start worrying about her marriage. Even if her parents don’t pressurize her and have given her freedom of fulfilling her dreams, the pesky neighbors taunts and worry starts increasing day by day-”Why their daughter is not marrying someone”? Some people would even be upfront and directly ask them " When are you getting married?”
In arrange marriages whenever a girl’s parents go to see the groom, they usually see the family’s background and their home. But in most of the cases, if a guy looks good, mature and nice, they just select him as a prospective groom for their daughter. while on the other hand when groom’s parents come to see the prospective bride, they usually begin to judge her on various aspects, whether she knows how to cook food or is she qualified or is she capable of managing home or will she be able to adjust in their family. Apart from these criteria like fair complexion, smart looks, good personality are also considered important. Questions like whether she will be able to leave work after marriage as per family requirements also arise. Is this the correct way? In my view- no and never. Why are girls expected to be perfect in every way? It doesn’t matter if the boy is perfect or not. He is not judged or questioned or made to fit certain criteria.